We have an expectation that life should be perfect. And if it’s not, then we need to somehow pretend that everything’s ok. I knew someone who, when asked how he was, would reply, “Absolutely wonderful.” Yet, the more I got to know him, I understood that things were clearly not wonderful in this man’s life. But his response was always the same when he was asked how he was.
It always sat heavily on my heart that this brother in the Lord could not be honest about what he was truly going through. Why is it that we followers of the Messiah are afraid to show that we are struggling? Do we think that if we reveal our struggle that others may look down at us? Why is it that we need to pretend that everything is perfect, when in reality it’s not?
I believe one of the main reasons is that we are afraid that if we show we are struggling, we may think that our faith is weak – and even worse – that others may think so as well. We are very quick to judge our brothers and sisters in the Lord when they struggle, and this has to stop.
My dear brothers and sisters, struggles, tests, and trials are an inevitable part of our lives; we can’t escape them nor deny them. I believe that we should be real with one another and not put on an outward show to impress others. What people think about us is their problem, not ours!
It is during the times of struggles, tests, and trials that we should be more real than ever. We should not be afraid to show or share our struggles because there is nothing wrong in struggling with something. It is our faith that carries us through those times, and gives us strength to stand firm in Him as we go through some temporary trials.
Let us not fool ourselves into thinking we are the only ones going through difficult times, or struggling with sin. No one is perfect, and we cannot fool ourselves, or others with false perfection. One of the things that I’ve learned over the years of being a follower of the Messiah is that when others look at us, they want to see the “real” us, and we should not be afraid to be transparent. In fact, our honesty can be a strong encouragement to someone else who is struggling!
Our faith is the “glue” that keeps us connected to the Lord, and is our great hope in Him. I’ll never forget years ago when I sat with a fellow Israeli, and he stopped me in the middle of our conversation with tears in his eyes and said, “Moran don’t you understand that I want to have what you have?” He saw that in the midst of trials and struggles, I still had hope.
And the hope of Messiah is what the world is desperate for today. Let’s shine some hope into the darkness by being real and true, first with ourselves, and then with each other.
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This is such a “real” article. I appreciate it.
I also think that it is a pride issue that keeps the followers of the Messiah from being real .. so, let us be real and quit giving into pride or fear or whatever else might be the root cause of our thinking that anything but honesty is acceptable in the Kingdom.
What the world – be it in Israel or any other country of the world needs most is to see the reality that the Messiah is worth being real for. In good times, in bad times and every other time between the good and the bad, the world needs to KNOW HIM and that He is able to keep that which we have given to Him – in this case, ourselves, from falling and failing regardless of what our emotions might be experiencing at any given moment of time.
Again, I truly appreciate your writings and the reminder that it is good for us to be real … no masks allows others to see Him through our broken times as well as the good ones.
Blessings to you and yours.
Shalom, and Amen My Brother, Moran!
Once again, an excellent Word.
Talk about a breath of Fresh Air.
Not that all of The Lord’s Children would be weak,
Nor Is our Weakness in ANY way- IMPERFECT…
Quite To the contrary.
That IN our GREATEST weakness
We Become PERFECTLY SUSCEPTIBLE To HIM!
Even as Our Brother Paul has said,
“But he said to me, “My GRACE is
Sufficient for you, for my power
is MADE Perfect In weakness.”
Therefore I will boast all the more
Gladly, about my weaknesses,
so that Messiah’s power may Rest on me.”
May all of His Children
Rejoice, IN The Grace,
That Makes us Perfect
Yeshua ha’Messiah our Lord
And Our King.
Bless you Moran
For your great faith.
You truly refresh the saints.
God’s purpose for us is to become more like Jesus, and the only way that will happen is if we go through trials and tribulations. 2 Corinthians 1v3-4 says, ‘Praise be to the God and Father of our Lord Jesus Christ … who comforts us in all our troubles, so that we can comfort those in any trouble with the comfort we ourselves have received from God.’
I lost our eldest son in 2004, and my husband died unexpectedly 10 months later while jogging of a heart attack, and having been through that immense trial, I am now able to encourage others through a ministry called Grief Share.
Thank you Moran for being so real!