This section touches on the subject of submission within the framework of marriage. Upon putting off our old self and putting on “the new man”, we walk in the power of God and according to His will. Our connection with the Lord should be apparent in our relationships with others, especially in the context of marriage. Paul is giving us instructions for how healthy marriages should look from the Lord’s perspective.
“Be subject to one another in the fear of Messiah”. Before speaking on submission within the context of marriage, Paul also emphasizes the need for mutual submission to one another within the context of any relationship in “the fear of Messiah”.
“For this reason, a man shall leave his father and mother and shall be joined to his wife.” Marriage is a sacred institution. It is like to sticks that are bound together and cannot be separated or joined to any other sticks.
Marriage is a choice, however, and it’s important that we remember this. We have freedom of choice regarding whether or not we will submit to the will of God for our lives. There are no guarantees and we can never be sure exactly what a lifetime with a spouse will look like for us. Everyone is different. There are risks along the way.
For men, marriage comes with challenges to grow in ways that aren’t often comfortable for men. For instance, many men struggle to express love. It is usually easier for men to express respect than love. And yet expressing love is a central part of marriage. Love can only truly flourish in the context of intimacy and flexibility as we encounter unforeseen challenges.
“Wives, be subject to your own husbands, as to the Lord.” — As women, it is not easy to submit, and yet this is something that the Lord requires. This doesn’t take away from the value of a woman; rather the opposite is true — it demonstrates a woman’s acceptance of God’s authority and the Word of God.
The motivation for all of this must be God. We have the greatest example of submission to the will of God in that Yeshua came in the likeness of a man and submitted to the will of God on the cross.
- It is impossible to have 2 leaders (two heads).
- The ideal is that we agree together on what we will do, but if we disagree, ultimately, the husband should decide the best course of action.
- We should be mindful of the order that God has given us. The man will be the one to give account regarding his family.
- The man must lighten the burden of submission in as much as he is able. He should be sensitive to and understanding of his wife.
- Failure to recognize our roles within the marriage, can actually lead to destroying our marriage.